Why I Am Having Better Sex & How You Can Too
A good friend and HML team member asked if I could write about what I, the husband, do to support our family business. THIS IS A GREAT QUESTION.
A good friend and HML team member asked if I could write about what I, the husband, do to support our family business. THIS IS A GREAT QUESTION.
I feel a little sheepish
answering it because I basically took eight months off and Katy has been doing
all the work, but I recently increased my Young Living hours and am back in the
saddle.
The thing I have been most
consistent with is doing some housework.
This gives Katy the space and time she
needs to work the business.
We divide up the housework
about 50/50. I do a lot of dishes and folding laundry. Katy is the cook and
master cleaner. But we often do these tasks together and talk while we work.
Outside of one or two (hormonal) days a month, we genuinely enjoy
spending time together. 😊 We
are together all the time now, which keeps us close, and we LOVE it.
Let's get Young Living
specific....
KATY
Katy has always been the face
of our business.
She does the lion share of the work, i.e. talking to
people.
I have taught a few classes and
am not afraid to pick up the phone, but Katy does most of the classes, one-on-ones,
and follow-up calls. She is also the one posting in social media and creating
educational content.
CHRISTOPHER
The main thing I have done in
the past that makes a direct impact on our business is.... are you ready to hear
this?...
I lead the business. I drive the business outside of the team’s
comfort zone. I stay engaged and I know what is going on. I ask Katy to debrief
me several times a week so I know what the issues are and can coach her through
them.
We have done this together from
the beginning.
I have read the books, researched training opportunities, and
attended most of the training events together with Katy (and our son, John). I
am ready at a moment’s notice to step in for Katy when and where she needs
help.
There isn’t any other work I would rather be doing than helping families get
out of debt and build generational wealth for their posterity, the needy, and
the church.
As the husband, I take full responsibility for providing
for our financial needs. Young Living is our primary source of income. If it
fails, it is my fault. I take full ownership of it. That attitude toward our
business sets a tone for our future growth or decline, for our family’s generational
success or failure.
DUTIES
There are other things I do besides supervise. 😊
I do the bookkeeping (I use QuickBooks) and the taxes. I write
emails, blog, edit video content or web material, help with mailings, and other
odds and ends.
Katy and I usually have a weekly scheduling meeting to juggle home,
school, social, and business events during the week.
I provide motivation and encouragement to Katy as much as
possible because she deserves it. I help keep her on task at times – keeping us
focused on income producing activities: i.e. inviting people to events,
teaching classes, and care calls.
LIFE BALANCE
I believe life balance is possible. I find that the busier we are,
the more we get done. Young Living has helped all three of us (John is eleven
and in school) with our self-discipline and good daily habits.
We strive to keep our priorities straight and, believe it
or not, having a home-business has helped us with that.
We do our morning and evening prayers together every day. We keep
the house picked up, the dishes done, the laundry clean, etc.
Katy and I usually spend at least an hour a day talking (business
and family life). Our marriage has never been better because of the new
habits we have formed, thanks to the training we have received since we
began this endeavor.
On good days, we are thriving! On bad days, we continue to learn.
It wasn’t what I thought it would be. Five years ago, I thought we
would be able to retire from Young Living by now and be on a beach sipping margaritas
somewhere, but I realize that that vision of success is quickly boring and unfulfilling.
Yes, we are debt free (including no mortgage or car payments).
Yes, we are both working from home (my favorite part). Yes, we are very
grateful. Yes, life is better now than I could have imagined. God provides for
our needs, puts new desires on our hearts, and blesses us beyond our dreams.
We are rich in resources, yes, but we are far richer in our relationships.
This Young Living opportunity has taught us to be generous, selfless, and more
interested in serving others than serving ourselves.
To be honest, if I knew what kind of growth I needed to go through
in order to get to where we are today (and I still have a LOT of growing to
do), I don’t know if I would have gone down this road.
It’s a challenge. Pursuing right order in relationships, daily, is not easy. But it
is absolutely worth it.
I hope I have given you a few ideas that will bear fruit in your
own relationships – especial with your spouse.
MARRIAGE
If you want your business to flourish and you want your marriage
to flourish, you need to frequent the marital sacrament.
Outside of those times of the month that you have decided, as a
couple, to abstain, I recommend you come together AT LEAST once a week. If you
REALLY want your spouse on board with the business, a period of daily communion is not too much to ask, especially if you are out of the routine.
Just trust me on this. This is the best way to stay ‘on the same
page’ with your spouse, day in and day out. WHY? Because it requires TALKING.
Talking is foreplay and talking is what builds both marriages and businesses.
‘Nuff said.
Our wish for you and your spouse is that you would thrive with Young
Living – that you would find a way to serve many people –
because it’s a
STONE
COLD
FACT,
we have a better way.
God bless the work of your hands!
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